Relationships are one of the greatest sources of joy and suffering in our lives. Intimate relationships are especially challenging because the same emotional intensity that makes them so exciting also stirs up our fears of abandonment, many of which have long roots in the past. Another reason that relationships are challenging is because we bring to them all of our cultural expectations, including dual desires for closeness and independence, which often clash in unexpected ways. Perhaps you having gotten stuck in unhelpful patterns of communication with someone who care deeply about, perhaps you are entangled in a relationship that is doing you more harm than good, perhaps you desire to create the kind of relationships you have always longed for but never managed to achieve. Relational counselling provides an supportive space to explore these and many other issues that you may be dealing with.
Given the fused nature of intimate relationships, the perspective-taking which counselling provides can be invaluable in helping you to clarify what is important to you in your relationships and how best to move forward in alinement with those values. Via guided exploration of your patterns of communication you will gain insight into why you react the way you do and learn skills for matching your relationship behaviours with your heart’s intent. This will enable you to act in ways which move you closer to what you want in relationships rather than falling into behaviours which push you further away. Whether you are currently in a relationship or not, I will support you in the goal of experiencing and maintaining life-enhancing intimacy.